CRAZY IN LOVE

Your partner is fuming, and you need to cool him/her down. Acting crazy can make that happen very fast.

PICTURE this. You are fuming. While shouting, you happen to look at your partner, who is making funny faces. You get irritated in the beginning. But a few moments later, you end up smiling. The anger vanishes, and the mood lightens. That is when you realize that losing one’s cool is just not worth it. After all, why fight with the one who means the world to you? Businessman Sameer Sinha, who hates fights and bad moods, agrees, saying, “When my wife gets angry, I do all things possible to calm her down. I too get angry, but it does not stay for long. I try to make her smile by just being a good and helpful husband. I do everything she would love me to do — help her with the daily chores, and put my things in their proper places. She loves this good boy avatar of mine. And all is well after that.”

Anger, frustration and irritation lose when you sincerely want to bring laughter back. After all, why extend fights when you know there is no reasonable end to it? Kavita Sharma, an IT professional, agrees, “My husband and I fight for crazy reasons. We must have fought for the same reason 100 times before. There is no solution to it. So, when he gets angry, I pick up his favourite instrument and start playing it and sing a classic Bollywood number. It instantly lightens the whole mood and it is happy time again!”

When you have to cajole your partner, the one thing that works the best is ‘stupidity’. Yes, it seems weird, but stupidity can do things that sanity cannot. Ask freelance photographer Manavi Bhatia, and she’ll explain, “My husband makes weird faces whenever he is angry. So, what I do is, I show him a mirror and start emulating his expressions. That usually works, more so because it’s a very stupid gesture and less because it’s actually funny.” But Arpit Battacharya, a marketing professional, warns that stupidity can sometimes have the opposite effect. He says, “When my wife gets angry I joked and laughed, thinking it would make her smile too. But, unfortunately, she just got wilder. It's not always that you can fool around. Sometimes, you need to understand the reason behind the other person’s anger and act accordingly.”

All’s well that ends well. And how to end it well is something, you need to work on. If going crazy and laughing out loud is the solution, then go for it!